What I'm doing: OFF the CUFF ~ Basically, I'll be keeping posts short and writing about whatever moves me~themes, inspirations, causes, and silliness. I'll stick to my normal posting of Mondays & Wednesdays (possibly an occasional other day), highlighting the appropriate letter for said day. But I will visit blogs throughout the week. I am looking forward to reading your words!
What is love? Is it like this quote from THE TRUTH ABOUT FOREVER written by the fabulous Young Adult Author Sarah Dessen:
"THERE IS NEVER A TIME OR PLACE FOR TRUE LOVE.
It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment."
And like this quote from THE FAULT IN OUR STARS by John Green:
"AS HE READ, I FELL IN LOVE THE WAY YOU FALL
asleep; slowly and then all at once."
Pretty swoony, 'eh? It can be just like that. But so often, in daily life, in the moments of our mundane experiences, we forget that everyday/constant/for-better-or-worse love is a completely different animal than at its ignition. It's effort, work, and it can be messy, crazy, sweaty, incomplete, broken, and flawed.
Love is selfless, meaning utter abandonment of self. I'm talking about the exercise of loving within relationships, both romantic as well as genial friendships - NOT forfeiting the love of self altogether. No. Caring for oneself is vital to selflessly loving others. The key is BALANCE. Giving all self in the motivation for another's well-being, verses resulting in harm to yourself.
We all know when we act in other person's benefit, but know down deep our motivation is more for self than that other person. It's call Examination of Conscious. It's innate. We're all born with it. The more you exercise it, the more honed it becomes.